Kayla Knopp, a clinical graduate student at the University of Denver Center for Marital and Family Studies, explains that marriage feels extremely consequential for many people.
If one partner wants to get married and the other doesn’t, for example, confronting this fact can greatly complicate things.
Being transparent can help your partner know that you have nothing to hide, and show that you’re ready to start anew regardless of your past.
Taking the right approach to conversations about marriage can make it easier to discuss your past marriages and divorce.
Chilpata adds that it’s best to approach this topic slowly, understanding that it may take many conversations to get to the heart of the matter.
Be patient, stay open to the other’s questions, and as marriage consultant Sheri Stritof advises, “Maintain eye contact.” If you’re dating someone who’s also divorced, asking the right questions can help to open a dialogue about what you’re both looking for, wellness and relationships writer Korin Miller says.
While bringing up a history of divorce might feel outright taboo, discussing your past relationships is an important way for you and your partner to bond, says Dr.
Paulette Sherman, a psychologist and the author of “Dating From The Inside Out.” “That is one way to reveal who you are and what you want without putting pressure on them to make any immediate decision about you,” Dr. “Oftentimes when you bring up your life and relationship vision in general, the other person will reveal theirs too.” She adds that talking about marriage can give you both an idea of whether you’re on the same page.