How to stop dating someone
Does someone accidentally fall on you in the grocery store?
In the two-and-a-half hours I leave the house each week, is he going to trip on me at Starbucks while I’m nervously palming my skinny hazelnut latte and completely avoiding eye contact?
The best part about it was that even though I was still excited about a great date, there was not longer the subtle hint of desperation in my interactions.
To continue to date without this emotional cycle was difficult but essential.
So they often parrot off clichés like “you’ll meet the right one when you least expect it” and “you’ll find him when you aren’t looking.” When you’re on this emotional roller coaster, these well meaning statements are enough to make you want to cold clock someone in the face.
How exactly do you even meet anyone if you aren’t looking?
When you strongly view yourself as a whole person who is looking for someone to share your life with, it takes away some of the fear that they won’t like you, that your destiny is hanging on this outing, and that if they don’t approve of you, you are back to square one.
So many people carry around the same negative thoughts about their desirability.
Or, I could manage my attitudes about my relationships in general and take a whole different approach to dating.“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.” ~Unknown I’m all too aware that dating can feel like a grinding, painful roller coaster to nowhere.If you’ve hit your head against the wall as many times as I have, you know how frustrating, depressing, and downright disheartening it can be.My best friend called it “going for another round.” It took me years to realize that I was addicted to the experience of dating itself.There is a great deal of novelty in meeting new people and experiencing new things with them while clinging to the distant hope that one of them just might click.