Getting engaged after 6 months of dating
Besides, I was working crazy hours and had no time to go out on dates anyway.
But over a few glasses of wine one night, my friend convinced me that I needed to meet someone and go out, so I signed up for Bumble. A big part of the reason that I swiped his profile was because we had so many friends in common [Bumble connects you through Facebook friends].
Please share your thoughts about any of the central premises of this piece.
Do you disagree because you have this one friend who met her soulmate, married him in six weeks and they’re still together twenty years later and they have sex twice a day? A man in love might want to propose as quickly as possible but he should have the wisdom and self-control to override that desire.
Other useful takeaways:-Happily married couples shared many traits, including courtships that progressed smoothly toward marriage with little drama; their courtships had a quiet, romantic feeling, but as important, they sensed they were marrying someone who could be a good friend.-Unhappily married couples had low-key courtships that moved forward slowly because either one or both of the partners lacked much warmth or had difficult personalities.-Early exiters (what Huston calls “Country Music Romances”) divorced very quickly, within two to seven years of marrying. Another reader – who was attempting to shoot down my assertion that you should ideally wait 2-3 years before getting engaged – sent me a link to a super-informative article.If you expect your marriage to be otherwise, you’ve got a big surprise waiting for you.“The fact of a couple moving quickly toward marriage is not in and of itself a problem as much as what is driving the speed.Love is one thing, but a loving marriage is something else entirely.It’s entirely possible – I might argue, probable – to fall in love with someone who would be a terrible spouse for you.