Dating relationship opening
With my current setup with Adam, he knows that yes, I am attracted to other people and am sleeping with some. And there’s no confidence booster like remembering that it’s me whom he comes home to and loves deeply. He knows all of my quirks, he knows what makes me tick and how to reason with me.
Nobody knows me like Adam does, and nobody is going to know him like I do.
One married couple I’m friends with has a couple of girlfriends between them, and they also have their own partners (she has both male and female partners, and he has female partners).
I have a good friend who lives apart from her boyfriend; she has several regular male and female lovers, while he travels the world, finding spontaneous sexual encounters along the way.
For another married couple I know, non-monogamy means one partner does things with lovers that his husband doesn't really enjoy doing, while the husband opts for trysts that last 25 minutes, tops.
We build and modify the relationship—and the rules—as we go. We started with very few, and now we have a few more that we’ve devised along the way.
There have been instances where something has felt uncomfortable, or times we’ve felt hurt, so we've modified.